cant understand...

I am so confused about why it is that when you tell you children not to do something,they are going to make sure they are going to do just what you said not to. I am so angry right now. It is a constant battle with my son Dacoda. I know I did not raise him and he has only lived with me since the end of May but, I think if I was him I would want to do everything in my power to appreciate finally being home and out of that god for saken awful system in all those different facility's. He doesn't lift a finger to help around here until we get so darn mad we had over come with anger. We should not have to point out what needs to be done everyday. He should put more of an effort in wanting to be a part of this family but,no he does the opposite and I am just about at the end of my rope with him. He would rather tell a lie then tell the truth and this is constant. We are constantly having to bail him out like he recently did an FFA fundraiser. He was suppose to turn in the money and check that fri(a lie) so Dennis counts and looks at hos sheet all the money and checks is there when he is sent off however, instead of turning it in he keeps it all weekend and spends a night at a friend of his all weekend and we was unware of this till much later. Anyhow one of the church ladies Dacoda screwed comes up to us and says she never got her ham but her check cleared. He still swears it somehow got mixed up instead of admitting he spent someone elses money and guess who has to pay for it? Not Dacoda he has no job!!
So, today when they want to go out in the woods and shoot bb guns I tell them no stay by the back of the house. I go out to get in my car to go get Dennis and guess what they are blatantly out in the woods where I told them not to go. On my way back home my son Justin calls and tells me Dacoda shot Neely my almost 10 yr old mini Doxxie. Sure enough I see an entrance wound and you can feel the bb under her skin. I am lived about now and screaming yep he has pushed me over the edge my animals mean a lot to me. I am so upset at this point that he once again blatantly was not shooting that stupid bb gun in our designated area.
So, here it is 10oclock at night and Dacoda never ever once told me I am sorry mom. I know this is going to cost you a lot of money what can I do to help you pay for my mistake? No, the only thing I got from him was I didn't mean to. I do not know what I am more pissed about him shooting my dog?or him not giving a damn about what its gonna cost me?or him not telling me he is sorry!!
I know he really screwed up but I dont think its to much to ask for a reaction from him.RIGHT!
I still love him but I really do not like his actions.